When you’ve made a mistake, think of what you might tell your child or your best friend if they had done the same thing. Many times people can be tougher on themselves than anyone else when it isn’t necessary. Be as gentle with yourself as you are with others when they make mistakes, and you’ll feel better about yourself.
Don’t ride your path to personal development on a high horse. Taking the enlightened path is great, but you also must work to understand why we sometimes take the low road in order to minimize the time you spend on it. You can’t deal with these instincts without first acknowledging them. Remember that no one ever leaves them behind completely.
Be your own best friend. This can be one of the best things you can do for your personal development. Love yourself and treat yourself like you would treat someone who you found attractive and fun to be around. Pretty soon, you’ll start living up to your own expectations and be that person.
Take control of your body. When you want something, ask yourself if this is something that could make you happier or something that your body needs. For instance, smokers often experience the need to smoke a cigarette and yet they do not feel any better when they are done. These desires are controlled by the body: learn how to recognize them.
Socializing with large groups provides a soundboard for ideas, and helps to ground people in reality. A personal opinion or two may be the cause of some distress, but with a large forum of people you hear a multiple of perspectives. Then you can objectively weigh more possibilities than you could if you just hear your own voice, or that of one or two friends or critics.
Whether we learn to play Bridge or to play the violin, new skills can lead also to social enrichment. We can now join a Bridge Club, or play with a chamber music group. These social groups intensify our enjoyment of the skills we have developed. Our joy in a personal development becomes a shared joy.
Try your best to be someone you can respect. Never do anything you know you are going to hate yourself for doing. Really think about your actions. Think about what sort of impact they will have on you and your life before you carry through with them. Strive to accomplish things that will leave you proud of yourself.
For greater self-awareness and a boost of spirits, enjoy or create art. It is so easy to get wrapped up in ourselves and limit our view of the world. When you look at truly stunning and magnificent art, it opens your awareness and helps you envision possibilities. When you create art, it awakens playful and childlike aspects of your mind.
One way that you can help yourself manage stress is to do progressive muscle relaxation. One at a time, tighten a muscle, hold it, and then release the tension. This helps to relax your body, and studies have shown that people’s mental stress goes down as their body tension is reduced.
Be sure to take the time to recognize and celebrate your accomplishments. Make a big deal out of reaching the smallest goal that you have set for yourself. You deserve to be rewarded for the hard work and sacrifices that you have made to reach these goals. Make it a candy bar or a bowl of ice cream, whatever you find to be your favorite treat.